November 13, 2006

Where do I find the time?


It's a common early pregnancy symptom to be tired. So I feel like a total wuss even complaining about it. But that's not going to stop me. Hell no.

It's not the exhaustion that is dragging me down, it's the fact that my ass is parked on the couch or bed as soon as Arun goes down for a nap or the night. Since my ass is Permanently Parked, it means it's not getting anything done. A solid week of not getting anything done is starting to affect my mental health. Logically speaking, I have nothing to gripe about, so I hate being what I would perceive to be ungrateful. But damn. I have been feeling totally flat the past few days and it is really digging at me emotionally. Who knew that a toddler and an embryo could join forces just so? Between the two of them, I feel as if I am barely skating by these days.

So, this morning, I was frantically thinking of what I could possibly post about because quite frankly, not much exciting happened on the couch. Then, I read Mother in Chief 's excellent post on "choices" and it struck home with me. I like that she took ownership of the fact that "not getting things done" is often a choice rather than a Victim of Circumstance. While I am the first to admit the perks of staying home have afforded me far more free time than if I worked in an office, it also came down to conscious choices on my part regarding which interests would retain priority. I did give up some interests in lieu of others - raku (pottery) was one of them. Unfortunately, keeping up with some of my friends was another choice I had to ponder. I am so behind on emails, that I'm not sure where to begin with them. I'm still not sure how I feel about the fact that time with my friends invariably gets pushed low on the social totem pole.

Until recently, I was riding high, getting things done, keeping up with my interests that held the most importance for me. I've had more than one person ask me how I manage to do it - just last week, I had another blogger ask me how I was managing to keep up with NaBloPoMo. I wasn't sure how to answer, so I made a crack about tethering Arun to the coffeetable. The truth is, I thought hard about NaBloPoMo and decided it would be worth it to devote some extra time to it. I haven't made much progress on my knitting projects and have only finished one book so far this month. And yeah, so far this month, Arun probably has had more "unstructured" play time than usual, but I don't think that is harmful and he certainly doesn't seem unhappy right now as he is gleefully walking around with a cat toy in hand while I hammer this out. Although, I can't speak for the cat.

AnyWAY, an entire week of lounging on the couch during my Free Time has brought me down. Yes, I'll admit it. But, after reading Mother in Chief's post, I've decided to look at it differently. From now on, I'll try to see lying on couch as a "choice" and perhaps that'll help raise my spirits. Maybe.


Cheryl said...

You're being proactive, is what it is. You're actively lounging. Yeah.

Anonymous said...

I say what she's saying! **points up**

I think you're fabulous managing your life AND NaBloPoMo. It's not easy, especially with Arun AND your tiredness.

So keep it up!

Anonymous said...

In spite of the fact that I had nine solid months of morning sickness, I would still argue that the first-trimester exhaustion was the WORST pregnancy thing (side effect? symptom?). You're doing great, though! Keep it up!)

Rozanne said...

Don't beat yourself up about not getting a ton of shit done. I think you have every right to lounge; you're pregnant and that's taking something out of you.

Just go with it and give yourself some downtime. There's way too much guilt in our society about "doing nothing." :)

Cagey (Kelli Oliver George) said...

Thanks for virtual pat on the back. Needed it. Ironically, one of my goals for NaBloPoMo was to get better at responding to all comments made here - like Rozanne and Diana are so adept at keeping up with. hahaha... Best laid plans.

Monkey McWearingChaps said...

Hey, there's important TV to be watched!

Do take it easy on yourself, though (and I will write you a long email tomorrow that you can DEFINITELY push off responding to till you feel more energised).

Anonymous said...

Just nodding my head to all the others. Rest, rest, rest; if you're too tired to do anything else, then your body needs the rest;>

Anonymous said...

I like the idea that you are choosing to sit on your butt on the couch. But, it could also be said that you are choosing to rest to grow a healthy baby (this said while my daughter walks in circles around the coffee table, clutching one of her socks).