tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post800361442394266941..comments2024-01-23T09:42:56.561-06:00Comments on Rancid Raves : In the calm, there lies the magic.Cagey (Kelli Oliver George)http://www.blogger.com/profile/13691589813815058981noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-76672534275832084782009-10-16T22:42:00.615-05:002009-10-16T22:42:00.615-05:00I was really ok with this post. I still stick to ...I was really ok with this post. I still stick to my point that it is hard to hear that someone else would hate to make the same choices I have made, but that doesn't meant that I disagree with you for making different choices or for thinking that your choice is the best choice. <br /><br />HOWEVER, I just read your comment over at Jessica Gottlieb's blog, and it was interesting to see -R-http://andyouknow.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-30882998145573585882009-10-14T12:06:47.261-05:002009-10-14T12:06:47.261-05:00I don't have much to add that other's (on ...I don't have much to add that other's (on both side of the fence) have said - but I <b>loved</b> being a latch-key kid. My favorite part of the day was coming home to an empty house, and all of the wonderful possibilities (mostly in book form) that an afternoon by myself represented.<br /><br />So, you know, just as SAHM & WOHM lifestyles can fit perfectly for different moms, they canGori Girlhttp://gorigirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-21921378353356138312009-10-14T00:02:04.583-05:002009-10-14T00:02:04.583-05:00I'm glad that you speak up for your lifestyle....I'm glad that you speak up for your lifestyle. Even though we ended up with a stay at home parent through happenstance since Roger's layoff - and it's not me dammit - we've decided to work really hard to figure out how to make our life work with one of us working only part-time, if at all. It makes our household run so much more smoothly to have one of us home to care for the Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00574097041290271400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-1298593293731888932009-10-12T13:02:54.739-05:002009-10-12T13:02:54.739-05:00My apologies to Monkey for messing with her nice r...My apologies to Monkey for messing with her nice round comment number, but I had to add my two cents to your lovely post. My life is pretty crazy right now with work and home life (which is why it has taken days for me to get around to writing this comment), so this post definitely hit home. I think it is wonderful that you are able to stay home with your beautiful kids and I hope you can find a loribhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13201078997297459344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-24347667035187330812009-10-04T15:02:16.368-05:002009-10-04T15:02:16.368-05:00Alright, I'm posting because I think 30 is a n...Alright, I'm posting because I think 30 is a nice round comment number. My OCD won't let me keep it at 29. It's kind of like when I'm working out and I'll be done but then I'll exercise a wee bit more so the calorie counter ends on a rounded number. <br /><br />It's good that you love your life.Monkey McWearingChapshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01159146850159129520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-73347745466340634912009-10-03T10:15:34.908-05:002009-10-03T10:15:34.908-05:00This was a great post, Cagey. It also scared me, ...This was a great post, Cagey. It also scared me, because the life you don't want is basically what we're setting ourselves up for. We live in such a high cost-of-living area that as long as we live here, I'll probably never be able to stay home. Plus there's the commute, the traffic, etc. It's already exhausting and we don't even have kids yet! There's a lot of D. Jainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10444431374213132076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-46742054295393804692009-10-03T00:25:24.605-05:002009-10-03T00:25:24.605-05:00I hardly classify my few hours a week as really wo...I hardly classify my few hours a week as really working outside the home. However, doing that has given me great insight into myself: I could never work full time right now. Not because of daycare or whatever, but because I would totally and completely suck at it. I don't have the energy or focus right now. And I am really bad at making the transition back to home after being at work. I Christinehttp://boyoutofcontext.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-966850051431131982009-10-02T10:58:40.379-05:002009-10-02T10:58:40.379-05:00It is cold and windy today. The kiddos and I stayi...It is cold and windy today. The kiddos and I staying in bed for a good 40 minutes debating hot oatmeal vs pancakes. We decided on malt o meal. I was a latchkey kid- I knew my parents loved me more than anything- it was still incredibly lonely to come to an empty house. I would (and do) sacrifice material happiness to enjoy countless mornings like today. My situation would not work for everyone, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-60594859274917427892009-10-02T09:01:28.116-05:002009-10-02T09:01:28.116-05:00One of the things that I know you can do part time...One of the things that I know you can do part time and have freedom and NOT be in a cubicle is to be a substitute teacher (you're so qualified) or even a paraprofessional (again, so [over]qualified here)in yours and my school district. The pay for these positions is not too shabby. It would work around school times for Arun and Anju (since you'd be working in a school, too), the school LuAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096530230223722626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-50055218086373691172009-10-01T22:08:01.881-05:002009-10-01T22:08:01.881-05:00I work outside the home. My husband stays home an...I work outside the home. My husband stays home and takes care of the house and kids. It's a choice we made because of finances (I'm a lawyer and he's a teacher-you do the math). I leave my office at 5:00 every day, earlier if I can get stuff finished, because my BoyChild has to be in bed by 8:00. So, we eat together, we race cars, we take a walk. It's not the ideal situation,M&Co.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05826472564396169120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-91855487744808551702009-10-01T12:03:49.688-05:002009-10-01T12:03:49.688-05:00I never thought I'd want to quit an outside jo...I never thought I'd want to quit an outside job and stay home with my kids. My mom worked outside the home...but my maternal grandmother lived with us and was there to care for us when my parents were working.<br /><br />When my son was first born, I suffered from postpartum depression. Getting up and having to go to work kept me sane and away from the edge. But I still wasn't happy.<br /Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12321505516350090098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-48978033457218329062009-10-01T11:35:36.577-05:002009-10-01T11:35:36.577-05:00I came here to read the comments after reading you...I came here to read the comments after reading your post. Others have said what I thought when I read your post, "you would hate my life." It kind of made me sad, but, then again, I knew what I was getting into when I decided to start a family and work. It's a shame that we women don't have more choices. Part time work = no benefits. Full time work = no time with children. It&#Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-9476313532080063732009-10-01T10:51:31.070-05:002009-10-01T10:51:31.070-05:00Thank you for the beautiful post. I love the fact ...Thank you for the beautiful post. I love the fact I can spend 2 hours sitting in the yard looking at bugs and clouds-not having to think of rushing around. I hate it when people ask if I'm bored (seriously how could you be bored with your own children?. I hate it when I am not included in adult conversations despite my 2 degrees and respectable working past-for some reason I am now...just...aAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-41041921962257721082009-10-01T09:45:23.042-05:002009-10-01T09:45:23.042-05:00Okay I thought about your post all the way home ye...Okay I thought about your post all the way home yesterday and now I have time for decent comment.<br /><br />I think you did a great job expressing yourself and the reasons for your choices without condemning those who have made other choices. I would love to stay home for all of the reasons you listed but it is not possible right now. I know there are lots of people who say "it is always kristennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-64941979055877504262009-10-01T07:37:59.993-05:002009-10-01T07:37:59.993-05:00Beautiful post.
I work a full-time office job rig...Beautiful post.<br /><br />I work a full-time office job right now, but all things considered it's not too bad. I have a short commute and the work is low stress. However, it is my hope that when my husband finishes his master's and gets a teaching job, that I will be able to find something part-time for all the reasons you listed.<br /><br />I am forever thankful that my mother's Olivianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-28122806153858185062009-10-01T00:36:26.972-05:002009-10-01T00:36:26.972-05:00good post woman...
if I had a quarter for every w...good post woman...<br /><br />if I had a quarter for every woman who has dismissed me or told me "ugg I could never be a SAHM" I would be a rich SAHM... so yeah both sides want to defend their position. <br /><br />I saw that report on woman being unhappy these days, and I agree many many are...Mojavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07560029907723621747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-45354213360226575402009-10-01T00:36:26.485-05:002009-10-01T00:36:26.485-05:00good post woman...
if I had a quarter for every w...good post woman...<br /><br />if I had a quarter for every woman who has dismissed me or told me "ugg I could never be a SAHM" I would be a rich SAHM... so yeah both sides want to defend their position. <br /><br />I saw that report on woman being unhappy these days, and I agree many many are...Mojavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07560029907723621747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-33935332703672815452009-09-30T22:21:18.484-05:002009-09-30T22:21:18.484-05:00When Ebaby was born I just could not go back to my...When Ebaby was born I just could not go back to my job. The thought of leaving her made me physically ill. <br /><br />When she was just shy of two I was sick of staying home and worrying about money. Amazingly my old boss called & offered my old job but part time and a lot more money. It was great! Three days a week and full time money. <br /><br />Then I got laid off before I even Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03695662344180959776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-86230479798752491962009-09-30T20:33:34.327-05:002009-09-30T20:33:34.327-05:00You know what's funny, I work part-time, for t...You know what's funny, I work part-time, for the same arguments you made. I don't want my son in daycare 40 plus hours a week (absolutely no judgment on people who do. I work in child abuse. I only judge people who cross my desk.) But I still have to work, financially, and for my sanity, so, this was our compromise. <br /><br />But, now that he is in school 5 days a week until 2, andjodifurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02436403330073542241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-33223919320131384792009-09-30T19:42:38.572-05:002009-09-30T19:42:38.572-05:00So after my love comment I read the other comments...So after my love comment I read the other comments, and I agree with all of them. I think our society puts so much pressure on us all to STAY HOM! and WORK OUT SIDE THE HOME! at the same time. The fact that so many of us love our lives, and that so many of us are totally different I think is what makes this world so awesome. It is what keeps it turning. <br /><br />I work from home, in a job Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-25484643982336298912009-09-30T19:36:51.608-05:002009-09-30T19:36:51.608-05:00Would you just write my blog for me? Thanks.
My m...Would you just write my blog for me? Thanks.<br /><br />My mental shift from being 'I stay home with my kids' or 'What do you do? Nothing..." came from my husband.<br /><br />Who declared me the CEO of our home. I make sure it is running, sometimes I farm out responsibilities (Neighbor Girl or friend) come by to watch my kids while I take care of some of the business of running Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-85132178954494355112009-09-30T18:48:12.476-05:002009-09-30T18:48:12.476-05:00Dude, people say they wouldn't want my life AL...Dude, people say they wouldn't want my life ALL THE TIME. It's different strokes, you know? No judgment here in the slightest. I think it all works for raising good kids, it's just what works for ME is THIS ... for now. You know?jonnikerhttp://jonniker.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-10420386888305269412009-09-30T17:21:41.211-05:002009-09-30T17:21:41.211-05:00I see where you're coming from. I work full-t...I see where you're coming from. I work full-time, and staying home isn't an option for either me or my husband. It's a frantic life sometimes, but I've tried to create the best situation possible. I work at home one day a week and whenever one of my kids is sick and needs to stay home. My husband's hours are flexible enough that he can pick the kids up mid-day many days.<Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17229977760242494008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-33285729945653322009-09-30T16:31:40.341-05:002009-09-30T16:31:40.341-05:00R and Lag Liv,
Yes, I agree. It is hard to read w...R and Lag Liv,<br />Yes, I agree. It is hard to read when someone essentially states they would hate to live your life. I suspect we all get this in many different ways, besides in parenting. For example, when someone expresses her disdain for living in the suburbs or living in the midwest. Or my very favorite from the mouth of a friend <i>"I could never date a foreigner!"</i> (trueCagey (Kelli Oliver George)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13691589813815058981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7624110.post-82113551601505199342009-09-30T16:15:02.888-05:002009-09-30T16:15:02.888-05:00I think "-R-" summed up my reaction to t...I think "-R-" summed up my reaction to this post very well. I can understand that what works for my family is not something you would want for yourself. And of course, I support the choice you have made and the fact you feel strongly it is the right one. What is hard is reading that someone else would not want to live your life, along with the underlying subtext that it probably LLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04431706155081017734noreply@blogger.com